Thursday, August 22, 2013

From Bromance to Third Wheel

I could not have asked for a better best friend during my college life.  
We've done everything together.

Nozomi and me.  

The day has come.  The last of my close single guy friends is now engaged (all others are already married or they've already graduated and left).


  • Completed our missions at the same time
  • Began college during the same semester
  • Chose the same major
  • Took tons of classes together
  • Hip hop danced together
  • Road tripped together
  • Spent hours working on projects and homework together
  • Gave presentations together
  • Made video games together
  • Sang and played the piano together
  • Watched countless Asian horror flicks together
  • Made movies together
  • Fed the ducks at the duck pond together
  • Got sick together
  • Gave sick people blessings together
  • Gave each other blessings
Basically we did everything together.

Nozomi is from Japan.  My Japanese brother.

I think seeing all my my friends get girl friends and then get married was a huge catalyst is my decision to come out.

Nozomi is an attractive guy, but I've never been attracted to him in a gay way.  I think that's why we were able to be such good friends.

This turned into...
...this.  It sucked.

The nice thing about Nozomi is that our interests are very similar.  Despite being computer science majors, we love hip hop dancing.  We also love adventure, and we have a very similar sense of humor so we're always laughing and having fun exploring whatever it is we spontaneously decide to do.

Here we are trying to break dance in the tide.  I can't break dance,
but Nozomi can and it's pretty sweet.
Trying out chairs in Wal-Mart.
Studying in the library.  This occurred a lot.

I'm the alien thing.
Presenting our video game.  Basically if the person playing the game is doing poorly then Iron Man takes out a bunch of Woody's (Toy Story).  Kinda funny actually, everyone was laughing.
Recording a song for YouTube.  He is using the garbage can as a drum.

One of my biggest regrets with Nozomi is not putting him in my coming out video.  One night during winter semester 2013, he and I were at a local church hip hop dancing.  We use my laptop to play videos to learn choreography, so I got my laptop's webcam all ready to record myself coming out to him.  But for some reason, I couldn't get myself to do it.  I was burnt out.  

The first time I saw Nozomi after I uploaded my video was in class.  I sat down next to him and he had a big smile on his face and said, "I wish I could have been in your video."  Such a stud.

Then Rie came along, and now they're engaged.  They've been dating for a few years now and so I've had to opportunity to get to know her pretty well.  Consensus?  I absolutely love her!  She loves me too, so it works out nicely :)  The worst is when one of your best friends marries a woman who hates everyone.

Congrats Nozomi and Rie!!!  #nofilter


  1. This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

  2. Hi I just found you from your sisters vlogs. I'm just trying to understand. So you are going to remain celibate your whole life?? I think it's sad you don't get to live and love the personae of your dreams, life's short and who the heck knows what's after. What if its nothing we just die and you sacrificed your one chance at true love.

  3. Great post! Good friends like that are hard to come by, and they're the kind that stick around.